Chapter 62. His kids are not my kids.

Kids are part of the equation when you are dating after 35. Maybe you managed to stay child free and you are planning weekends to adults only resorts every chance that you get but if you date a man with children from a previous marriage, you will have to deal with things that you have never imagined before (tantrums, ear infections, cancelled trips,  ex wives, school schedules and a lot of deviated attention).

Crocodile´s girlfriend does not want to date a man with children so she has managed to make crocodile forget about his little girl.  It is hard to believe that men are so at ease leaving their offspring behind once the woman of their life is no longer the mother of their children. There are exceptions of course, you can always find that one man that will live fight for their kids custody but, in most cases, men are just fine moving on to the next stage of life alone.

My father remarried a young woman that could be my sister. He forgot about us and made her his priority. To this date he will do whatever she says even if that means not seeing us or canceling plans with us for months. Now crocodile does the same thing.

All of us women reading this would say: a woman would never do that to their kids! a woman would never put her kids to the side for anybody. True, but many single (younger) woman demand that from a man as a pre requisite to be together. At least smart woman do. That way they won’t have to fight for attention or see their man´s past at the dinner table every other weekend, they won’t have to share, consider, care, they won’t have to mind, compromise, deprive. None of those verbs will apply when his kids are out of the picture altogether. Because some women simply don’t want kids, don’t like kids, can’t have kids and don´t any any desire to deal with other people´s kids at all. Because many men, like in this case, are now dating younger women who are not ready or are unsure about giving anything up.

Having children / co parenting children means giving up on a lot of the fun.

Unless both parties have children from previous relationships.

That makes a different post.