Chapter 70. He doesn’t love you if

As of late, your boyfriend plays the victim all the time. He says that you treat him badly, that you criticize him and that what you did to him that one time, even if this incident happened months or years ago, makes him feel unsure about the relationship with you. BS!

Your boyfriend is simply not in love with you anymore and needs to find ways to blame you for it and justify an imminent breakup. One easy way for men (or women) to walk out of a relationship is to project all the blame on the other person and then believe their own arguments.

If your partner seems to always be in a bad mood,  if he is not excited to see you after a few days being apart, if you don’t understand why he is so mean to you, why he blames you for everything in the world, including the ocean breeze. If every time he talks you hear “it’s your fault” behind every word. Like the water is too cold, the room is too hot, the ocean breeze is too breezy. You will desperately try to make the water warmer, the room cooler and the ocean breeze go away but there is nothing, absolutely nothing in the whole world that can save a situation of a man that doesn’t love you. And open your eyes:

The man does not love you.

Obviously it takes two to tango but when one leaves the relationship lying about the reasons or making up reasons like “I can’t give you what you want” “We don’t want the same thing” or “I will never be able to make you happy it usually translates as follows:

1. I don’t want to give you want you want, if I wanted, we would not have a problem.

2. No We do not want the same thing because we both used to be in love and now I am not.

3. I won’t be able to make you happy because I don’t want to make you happy. I don’t love you so that’s that.

“What do you mean you can’t make me happy? Sure you can! You are the man I love!”

“What do you mean we don’t want the same things I love you you love me, right?”

“What do you mean you cannot give me what I want? You are all I want!”

OK. Read 1, 2 and 3.

So you will take all the blame, you will feel confused, frustrated, sad, you will suffer a lot because you won’t understand the sudden change and all this blame on your shoulders. You will suffer.

Fact: with time the other person is going to suffer too because deep down he knows that all the excuses and all the blame were not legit nor fair towards you. The true reason is that the person that used to call you and promise you love and a life in common simply fell out of love and feels bad about it, he doesn’t want to be with you and better to demonize you than to admit that he was a ball of smoke. All talk.

Now you must put up with the fact that all those people that you met through your probably now ex boyfriend are listening to how mean you were, how negative you were and what a hellish life you were giving to this poor boy.

If you are reading this don’t feel sorry for yourself, be glad that someone who did not love you liberated you. Your love was pure and there is nothing shameful in that, if anything, a good score for the next person to match, on both ends.

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